I May See Why People Cheat...

And it's crazy for me to admit that as a woman.  But I think I see it.  When I was making my list of things I wanted God to give me, I thought I was pretty specific but now I see I left a few things out.  This dude has a lot going for him but I just cannot get with arguing over every little thing.  When he's upset its like dealing with a child, he sulks and drags things out for days, until he either gets his way or gives up.





We haven't been getting along (again) the past few days, so this morning I called myself trying to make light conversation and asked what he did last night.  He mentions that his mom came over to help him clean his house.  Now given that he lives like a true bachelor, with two rooms of (scarce) furniture, I was like what was so messy that you needed help with it?  I guess his defenses went up because he was like is that strange to you? I was like yea it is but that's just me, no big deal.  He's like well how different is it than you having someone cut your grass, aren't there things you feel like women do and things men do? I say yea but when you live alone you find yourself doing all those things by yourself, for example I cut my grass yesterday.  Long story short he didnt see the difference between a neighbor cutting my grass for me, and his mama coming to clean his house.  Then he comments "how can you have a different opinion about similar things, that's not very smart" and "that doesnt make sense, at least have an intelligent conversation."

Really?

Now I'm not one that advocates hanging up in somebody's face.  I think it's one of the most disrespectful things you can do, kind of like spitting in someone's face.

But I hung up on him.

Is it too much to ask that in a disagreement you still conduct yourself like an adult?  Or is it normal for somebody to get upset just because you have a different opinion about something than they do?  The bad thing about arguing is once you get to a certain point it goes beyond trying to find a solution and becomes simply going back and forth.  Just taking shots, both people are yelling just to be heard, and nothing's getting solved.  In my present state of mind I feel like I'm too old and my time is too valuable to waste it on shit like that.  We can address what the problem is and work to fix it, but when you just want to force your views or start throwing school yard insults, that's when I gotta make moves. Especially when it gets to the point where I'm having to keep myself busy so I won't start looking through my address book or contact list seeing who else I can call.

Niggas and flies...