The Steve Harvey Experience

So I came home today ranting and raving on Twitter about yet another person who's proving to be a disappointment, when somebody suggested I go buy the book Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Since this is about the 5 or 6th person who suggested the same thing, about 15 minutes later I was in my car on my way to Border's bookstore to pick up a copy. My plan is no dating whatsoever until I've finished the book at a minimum, and during this time I will reevaluate what I 'think' I know about men and dating vs. how Steve says men really think.

This should be interesting.





Two chapters into the book (1st chapter being the introduction), he's already pulled my card. I have always been the 'ride or die' chic, or at least tried to be. It didnt matter if I had more going for myself than the man I was dating did or not because as long as he wanted to get better and was working on it, I was determined to be right there along for the ride. I remember getting really close to one guy, and it seemed like everything was in place for a relationship, but he kept saying he wasnt ready. He said he still had things he wanted to accomplish and wasn't in the position he wanted to be in before getting into a relationship. To me this was somewhat of an excuse because if I was willing to be there and support him along the way, and was supposedly the one he ultimately wanted to be with, what was the problem? I ended up cutting him off, thinking that I didn't want to hang around waiting on him to finally decide that we would be together.

According to Steve Harvey "Many of you (women) figure that if a man truly loves you, the two of you should be able to pursue your dreams together....you'd rather build the foundation of your relationship together, no matter the man's station in life. This is honorable, but its not the way men work. His eye will be on the prize, and that prize may not necessarily be you if he isnt up where he wants to be in life. It's impossible for us to focus on the two..."


Well why didn't he just say that?


SMH...on to chapter 3...