RIP Black America (video below)

This video is a few months old but someone just sent me the link on Twitter tonight (thanks LM) and I found it eyebrow-raising to say the least. I admit when the video first started I was immediately put on the defensive. I thought here we go, another video made with the intent to put us down and make us feel like we are responsible for the state of "Black America".  But after a few minutes I had to humble myself and be open to really listen to what the narrator was saying (even through all of his theatrics) instead of taking it as a personal attack. 

While I dont agree with everything he said, I do admit that a lot of what he said is true. I've said for a long time now that some (not all) waive the independent flag around a little too loud and proud, which a lot of times can come off as arrogant, conceited and bitchy (and haven't we heard that term enough).  I think for some BW it's just a front, a defense mechanism to keep them from having to face reality and look in the mirror on why exactly they are lonely with no prospects of a meaningful relationship in sight.  Then when they are in a relationship they take it too far by trying to prove to the man they are with that they really don't need him and can do it by themselves. Not understanding that its in a man's nature to want to feel needed, and if you make him feel he isnt needed he'll gladly go where he is needed.

On the flip side, for others being independent is just the reality of the situation we're in. I think it was comedian Roland Powell who said BW aren't independent because we WANT to be, it's because we HAVE to be. Yes some may take it too far, but it is what it is.  Even though alot of us make mistakes when it comes to the men we date, love, have children by, that doesn't negate the fact that a large amount of homes are missing the male figure. And to say it's because we are running them off just allows them (the trifling ones) to point the finger at someone else and not take responsibility for their own actions.

Anywho...I could rant about this for pages because he says so many negative things about how we carry ourselves, how we raise our children (or aren't raising them right), but I'll spare your eyes...peep the video and formulate your own opinions.

xoxo