Art Imitates Life?

So after days of 'boycotting' in my own little way, I decided to go ahead and listen to Rhianna's latest single.  Just reading the lyrics on NecoleBitchie I figured it would be hella depressing, but I didnt realize how much until the very end of the song (if you've heard it then you know what I'm referring to).

Slow Love

Ok for all my 80's babies, this one is what I call a throwback. Aside from the short puffy tail in the back and the one gold-trimmed tooth in the front, lol, I love everyhing about this song.  Reminisce with me :-)

xoxo

RIP Black America (video below)

This video is a few months old but someone just sent me the link on Twitter tonight (thanks LM) and I found it eyebrow-raising to say the least. I admit when the video first started I was immediately put on the defensive. I thought here we go, another video made with the intent to put us down and make us feel like we are responsible for the state of "Black America".  But after a few minutes I had to humble myself and be open to really listen to what the narrator was saying (even through all of his theatrics) instead of taking it as a personal attack. 

Resurrection

Had a cool Sunday; beautiful weather, laid around for most of it then had Sunday dinner at a relative's house (who put her FEET in some candied yams, greens, bbq chicken and cornbread by the way), watched a funny episode of Cleveland show, then came home to relax. Yea, pretty chill Sunday.

So I log on Twitter and I'm reading one of my favorite blogger's timelines trying to see if I missed anything. She's asked her followers to send in a pic of what they were doing at that moment for her to RT, so what the hell, I start clicking on some. The FIRST pic I click on...*sigh*...

You ever go through something pretty emotional, and as time goes by you think you've pretty much put it behind you until you run into someone associated with that situation?

*sigh*

This picture I'm looking at is of this.....GIRL...that my ex cheated on me with. You know, the one I said I thought I would be married to this year?

Yea.

That one.

Melanie Fiona "It Kills Me"

There is really no legitimate purpose for this post, other than to say I can absolutely relate to the lyrics and that I am in love with her voice. We all do crazy things for love, things that surpass all understanding, even to the ones in the moment. No matter how much we know we should leave, that one word will make us stay in the worst of situations.

Anywho.....enjoy :-)

The Steve Harvey Experience

So I came home today ranting and raving on Twitter about yet another person who's proving to be a disappointment, when somebody suggested I go buy the book Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Since this is about the 5 or 6th person who suggested the same thing, about 15 minutes later I was in my car on my way to Border's bookstore to pick up a copy. My plan is no dating whatsoever until I've finished the book at a minimum, and during this time I will reevaluate what I 'think' I know about men and dating vs. how Steve says men really think.

This should be interesting.

First Transition Style

*Twist out*

Since moving to DC a year ago and realizing how expensive beauty salons are here (relaxers start at $65 and go up depending on length), I decided to go ahead and make the transition from relaxed to natural. My last relaxer was in February of this year so I'm going on 8 months creamy-crack free.

Gem of the Day

“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” Maureen Dowd

Games we play

So I got an 'interesting' text today from a somewhat 'old' flame. I say somewhat old because we only stopped talking a few months ago. At first he was the guy that I wasn't really paying attention too, but then after awhile I figured he seemed to have his sh*t together so I decided to give him a chance. Everything was going really good for awhile, until one day I made a 'joke' about him not becoming my f*ck buddy, to which he responded that we should talk about where we wanted things to go. Long story short, the outcome was he said he didnt want to jump into a relationship so soon, so we agreed we'd just date, get to know each other, no sex involved. Cool beans. 

Stones & Jewels

"If you go outside, you can find a thousand stones on the ground. They are lying around everywhere. You can just pick any one of them up anytime and put it right into your pocket, or throw it back onto the ground. It has no value, so no one cares. But when a stone is a precious jewel, it is surrounded and protected. You'll have to work very hard to earn it, and even harder to keep it for yourself..." ~Sister Souljah

Revelations

You ever think you mean something to someone and find out later you really didnt mean anything? Wow how that can hurt.

I had a 'fling' for a short time with a coworker (first mistake right), that lasted only a few months. During that time we agreed that if someone else entered the picture for either of us we would be honest about it....after all it wasnt a 'relationship' we had, just more of a 'friends with benefits' kind of thing. (This was my second mistake.) Unlike many women who have convinced themselves that they can have sex without feelings, I realize thats not really possible for me. After a period of time dealing with the same person I think its natural that feelings will develop at some point, which is what happened. Anywho, during this period of us 'dealing' we also agreed that neither of us would mess with anyone else we worked with, which was more on him since our office includes quite a few females. We had a couple run-ins with each other about other people, one of which included him 'confessing' to me (while we were in the midst of u-know-what) about another female he was seeing. Why I didnt run for the hills then I can't tell you, but I havent always made the best choices (obviously) concerning the men I date and this one was no exception.

Anyways today I hear through the office grapevine that not only is he supposedly sleeping with one other coworker, someone who I'd previously asked him about but he claimed she wasnt his 'type' and he wasnt interested in her, but that he's also been sending flirtatious messages/texts to another coworker trying to hook up with her too. Obviously at this point he and I are no longer 'dealing' with each other, but even though we're not like that anymore, I still wouldnt mess with anyone else in the office just out of the respect I HAD for him (and myself of course). Not only that but now I am really seeing how big of a hoe he is and am regretting the fact that I ever gave him the time of day. I mean if you want to sleep around do your thing, but don't have me as a spot on your 'list' of conquests. Ugh.

A lot of times women will see warning signs about the men we're dealing with that lets us know he's not worth our time, but for some reason we press on. Something about that 'treat others the way you want to be treated' makes us think that if we are a certain way to someone that we care about that they will show us the same respect. Then when the situation doesnt turn out like we hoped it would (but instead like we KNEW it would), we are left to deal with the feelings of hurt, regret, disappointment, etc. So frustrating to me because I still have to deal with all of these people on a daily basis all the while still practicing the 'never let them see you sweat' mentality.

*sigh*

If I ever get involved in another office romance again somebody shoot me.

~Me